Updated: Feb 26, 2021
Allowing God to do the picking for us in every relationship, especially in marriage.
I'm Not Picking Anyone Else
It is critical that we must be patient, to allow God to spiritually, strategically match us perfectly without our so-called 'help'.
So we willingly give Him this task. I think we’ve already done enough to know that if we want what God has for us, we will seek his face and obey.
Through trials and tribulations of picking not quite the right ones, it teaches us to trust our Savior, in all matters. Acknowledge the fact that your husband should love you as he loves himself, by God‘s commandment, and by his heart. (Ephesians 5:28; so ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself.) And you will submit to him by commandment, and by your heart. (Ephesians 5:22; wives, submit into your own husbands, as unto the Lord.)
Together, you will do your best to fulfill his will for his kingdom in your marriage.
Since you are a man of God, she can feel certain that you already know what he expects of the two of you, as God reveals it. Thereby, satisfying your needs as well. It’s a spiritual match because God ordained it. It’s such a great match, that you will get each others unfunny jokes; You’ll be incompatible to be compatible; You’ll be opposites that attract; You’ll like the same movies. Dislike the same political and world issues. You’ll both love ballet, and football; You’ll dislike each other‘s favorite book. You’ll think each others idiosyncrasies are cute, not weird like everyone else thinks. You’ll have each other‘s back, and to scratch. She’ll like how God will make you like her personality. He’ll like how God will make her like your ugly feet so much that she won’t mind grooming them for you. How she’ll watch over you all night when you are sick, how she love the sound of your voice, how you‘ll love watching her, just because. Who but our God can put all that together in such an excellent way? While always remembering that God is your first love. Wait on Jesus.
I say all that to say this, I am so exuberant in my patience, knowing that God is choosing each of us just for each other. So without God’s help, I’m not picking anyone else. Ahhh, don’t act like you don’t know, or at least have heard of one or two. You know, the kind of quality that God honors. It may be a trillion years ago that we have to go back to remember that there actually is such a thing. That may be why I find it so refreshing when I actually hear of a present day quality relationship. Yes, They still exist. I think of my parents relationship. That was quality. I was taught morals and values, although some I forgot for a time, and most I remember now that I have asked for God‘s forgiveness, and ask God to come into my life. I’d like to also refer to the present day relationship of my Apostle Samuel, and Prophetess Carlita‘s marriage. I’ve witnessed their love and devotion to each other. (Heb 13:4; let Marriage be held in honor in all things). They have a serious and playful side. True examples of quality, can extend to your relationships with your family, friends, and career. I think about what Mary and Joseph had with one another, that Joseph initially doubted Mary’s reality about the Holy seed that God planted in her womb. Before the angel visited Joseph in a dream, he said, “I’m not your baby daddy.” Afterwards Joseph stood by Mary and her impending birth of Jesus. Joseph loved Mary and was told by an angel that Mary truly was a virtuous woman. Joseph’s relationship with God was of true quality, enough to stay with Mary, and father Jesus as his Child. To have a saved mother and father, and all that a loving family entails is a blessing. To be able to just grow up in God‘s beauty and sweet air. Without all the pure pressure, violence, drugs, etc. these things were present back then, but much more prevalent today. I’ve been told so many times that I am spoiled. So does spoiled mean that being brought up in a two parent loving home, or living on Sunnybrook shady Apple tree Lane, with a dog named Spot, and my siblings names are Dick, Jane and Shawanda? I agree that we were certainly sheltered.
"Psalms 62:5; My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him."
But, as adults now, I can see the damage that some of that protection caused. Mind you, I am not saying by any means that I don’t appreciate my parents and they’re doing the best they could. Imagine the shock my siblings had when we found out that families actually screamed at each other, hollered, fought, stabbed, and killed each other! I’m saying to you it is still very hard to wrap my mind around this! When unsaved I don’t know if I could have withstood the pressures that some young people of today deal with. I know that God has a grace on our lives. (Ps 41:1; The Lord will deliver him in the time of evil in trouble.) So I pray that all that don’t know God, will. And, I say all that to say this, put God first, and through his word, he will guide you to the truest quality relationships. Most importantly of all, the one that you have with all mighty God.